Young People & Relationship Violence

When young people date or are in intimate relationships there is the possibility that violence will often be denied or minimised.  Some young men will naturally expect to be "in charge" in a relationship and assume that their partners accept this.

Many young men and women lack the skills or experience to communicate their needs and expectations adequately.  Arguments, differences of opinion and battles of will can quickly become abusive and violent.

Sexual abuse, including rape, can occur in teengage relationships.  Young people may be forced, manipulated or coerced into unwanted sexual activities.  Consenting to a kiss doesn't mean consent is given to sexual intercourse.

Many victims are reluctant to let adults know that they have been abused.  They may be fearful of the reaction and consequences or they may believe that they are to blame in some way.  They may be afraid that controls will be put in place to restrict their freedom and friendships, or they may fear retaliation or rejection if they 'nark'.

Adults can help by making information and opportunities to talk about rights and responsibilities in relationships readily available and accessible to young people.  For more information visit http://www.expect-respect.org.nz/.

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